Every man has secrets. A book named The Secrets Men Keep by Stephen Arterburn  not only fleshes out each of 25 secrets but gives perspective on where those secrets come frome, why they feel so important and how to respond to them. I am passing this existance along because one chapter, What We Know About Men And Their Desire For Romance And Excitement, lets me understand why I enjoy riding my old Sportster,

Does the book deal at all with the secrets that women keep? I'm thinking women like the apparent 'risk taking' and in some measure 'socially defiant' persona of a male that rides a bike or whatever. But I REALLY believe that women also view men from a strange and unaccountable viewpoint. Many [most I'm thinking] unconsciously see men primarily as hairy, rude, uncouth, poorly behaving females. I'm convinced that somehow they do tend to gravitate toward the more apparent 'challenge' type males. But, simultaneously they probably see it as their civic duty is to straighten out the situation. Just saying, based on my decades of observation. The Sportster will likely be the first thing that 'has to go' in the fully justified domestication process.

Never....NEVER, let the Sportster go. Domestication or not.....that attachment should always remain a secret......and NEVER...reveal where the body is buried!

A friend (a woman) once told me that there are only two things she didn't like about men: "Everything they do and everything they say". Actually it was my mother who said that to me with a little help from the end of a willow stick. LOL I must've been an exceptionally bad little boy that day.

So then, the book is for women right? I'm pretty sure men don't need to know why or what secrets they keep. And if a woman asks, "why didn't you say something?", his response is going to be, "I don't know". I'm also sure most don't want women to know why they keep a certain secret. I have a secret that I keep from all women; i.e., why I put down the toilet seat, specifically the seat AND the lid. I mean, every man knows why a woman complains about the toilet seat up; it's quite a shocker in the middle of the night. But so is rushing to sit down on a "closed" toilet. LOL They can't complain that I didn't put down the seat and I also enact a bit of revenge for all those years, beginning with my mother and sisters, of nagging me about the damn toilet seat.

Secrets are a part of everyone's character. In fact, secrets are character builders. Just as secrets can create tension they can also relieve the threat of conflict. Secrets can also enforce integrity; doing the right thing for a reason known only by you.

Wow, this thread could go on and on and on. Perhaps you've started a bit of a confessional here.

Peace

The secrets I keep in my head are usually just silly ideas I have about something or the fact that I realized I'm ******* up and need to think of something fast so that the folks around me are not bewildered by my thought processes. I have to admit that I enjoy being a simple man who likes the cards that life have dealt me.

A woman and a steady job have ruined many a good biker!

Yeah, it's funny when it happens to someone else.

No. I think you missed it. The results of him 'Super Whipped" was not funny. Certainly not to me; he is a friend I care for. Funny was the response, by the woman that went to the affair with me, to my statement about the for-sure fact that he will be losing some toys. Her total look and voice tone that sorta said "What ever are you talking about?".

Yeah it's sad, that he allowed that to happen, ya gotta man up
(Says the divorced guy!) lol

You want funny? Thirty two years ago my wife left me for another woman. Well, there was a period of time that I did not think it was funny.

I would say bitter

I heard a woman say, "A man is easy to understand and make happy. Just give him food, sex, sleep, and fun toys and he's good for life."

I find it amusing a guy writes a book about male secrets for a female audience,and to actually think a woman is going to follow instructions on how to respond properly lol